A fundamental friendship

Maybe just for a moment stop scrolling, stop shopping for a bargain, searching for a short cut, or a service to outsource your suffering, your loneliness, your fears.

All these signals of distress are simply telling you to redirect your attention, turn around & have a good look, a deeper listen to what the state of play actually is. To where in the conversation you have found yourself stuck? Revealing who or what you have  been encouraged to be, at the expense of all the beautiful ways you already authentically are. These fundamental questions come from pausing the current argument, complaint, the convenient target for blame that always arrives in your life. And start having an honest , intimate conversation with yourself. One that you approach as if you were addressing your best friend.  A friendship that has fallen fallow, been left unattended. 

What would your first meet & greet be like? An initial awkwardness, tentative, sensitive. Only to be followed by a flurry of misgivings, excuses, apologies. But in time you find an accord, a calm settles between you & it all becomes a little more welcoming.  A little more accepting, developing into a trust in each other. A comfort with their company that doesn’t need words to convey, where the capacity for care is implicit in that silence. A fundamental friendship that is explicit in its generosity for supporting you, as it is in challenging you. And is always a source and cause for celebrating a unique & unconditional love. One that grows with you. Develops as you do. Becomes an indelible quality you can carry for the rest of your life. 

This is how meditation gifts you back to yourself & back to the rest of us, who remain impoverished without you fully here.

Portrait of Beta (journalist)